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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think when people come to visit a nice offer of "can I bring you anything...lunch...some diapers" etc is kind but not necessary.  I wouldn't want people to pop by with premade dinners out of the blue or start a meal train.  It is nice but I really rather not have random food.  That said, if someone said they would pick me up lunch on their way over from xyz restaurant I may take them up on that!

I have one child and am expecting another and really never found it hard to get dinner on the table even with a VERY BAD recovery.  [/quote]

Agree. Mom to 4 kids and with each subsequent new baby I never found it hard to get meals on the table. 
So much helplessness and entitlement on this board.[/quote]

I come from a culture where women are not supposed to lift a finger for 6 weeks after childbirth. They just heal, bond with the baby and are in seclusion to minimize infections for 6 whole weeks.  Which meant that my parents came a month before the baby was born and stayed for 5 months more.  I hired my cleaning lady to come thrice a week to clean, do laundry and help with the kitchen chores (mainly prep work).   I also hired a cook to come once a week for 4 hours to cook  several entrees. Mom and DH are pretty great in the kitchen too.  I had also frozen meals before the baby came.  I think we were just very organized and outsourced as much as we could.   I did not have visitors for 6 weeks - instead after the 6th week we had a ceremony where we invited all our friends and family.  After the ceremony lunch was served for 100 people (but we got that catered).

Looking back, I think the seclusion for 6 weeks is a great thing.  You have not healed, you are bleeding heavily, trying to nurse, the umbilical cord is not healed, every thing is new and unfamiliar.  I would have gone ballistic if I had visitors.   After 6 weeks, I was healed, baby had latched properly. I was not bleeding...everything was much better, and I was ready to meet everyone.  I prefered our traditional way to the more modern postpartum traditions here.  Only thing I was not a fan of was that I was not allowed to have cold water or ice for 6 weeks.  It was always warm water with lots of herbs boiled in it. I looked with yearning at the chips of ice other moms were chewing but my mom was firm that any thing cold will actually slow down my healing or lead to health problem later in life.  [/quote]

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