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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This post and the responses stuck with me last night. I don’t understand why everyone jumped to camps where either the OP or the twin mom is an awful person. The cynicism and judgement is saddening.

It absolutely is a burden to spend an extra 10 minutes every morning helping out another family for several weeks. Tougher still if the OP doesn’t feel any gratitude or close relationship with the other family.

But I can honestly say that it would be an honor if I were in a position make that small sacrifice to help a neighbor out. Especially if that neighbor is recovering from a c-section or otherwise struggling in the weeks after birth. I’d go to bed sleeping better because I had an easy opportunity to do something nice for someone every day. Every morning already you’ve improved someone’s day - that’s awesome!

As a result of this post and the responses, DH and I talked for while last night about how isolated families are and how hard it is to ask for or receive support. We’re going to look for more ways to proactively volunteer to help our neighbors or the families of our kid’s classmates. We both work full time and struggle with the usual time-money-energy balances, but we have yet to regret any of the small ways we’ve extended ourselves in the past.[/quote]

It would be an honor to learn about your experience doing this in a month or so, if as a service to this online community you come back and share how it went for you and DH: what you end up doing as volunteering service to your neighbors, how frequently (shooting for daily, right?),  how long it takes, what you sacrifice in order to be able to do it (sleep? time with your own children? anything else?) In addition, would be interested to know what situation you are coming from with such generosity: do you have a full time job? Is it flexible, or rigid in terms of starting and ending hours, how many kids do you have and whether there is any household help, paid or in the form of family or other people volunteering.  Thank you and props to you for leading by example. [/quote]

LOL! I love it! Yes, PP, please do us this honor! You may inspire others! And please also mention the level of gratitude in your report (no signs of appreciation means a bigger honor for you, right?).[/quote]

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