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[quote=Anonymous]Why does your husband want to start now? You mentioned he wanted 3 - 4, not 2.

It's all fine and well for us to talk about this in a vacuum of if it's a good decision for *you*, but your husband has an opinion too. It sounds like that's really the rub here - you wouldn't be asking if you both were on board with waiting. Although it sounds like you came to a compromise of waiting 13 months - which has its own risks (bedrest at the end of your program, early delivery, etc).

I've seen men leave women because they aren't aligned on children and timing. A couple of situations where the woman kept putting it off, and the man was secretly wondering if she was ever going to want to actually have the kids, or if the excuses/new jobs/etc were a way to delay and hope it didn't actually happen.

I think it'd be worth it to dig into it and make sure your husband doesn't doubt your commitment to kids. A really worst-case scenario is ending up divorced 18 months into your program because you're super-stressed at the 13 month mark and won't agree to TTC then, and he is over it. [/quote]

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