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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  The butter aside is hilarious...and long-lived.  Every time it pops back up, I laugh.  :)

Thank you all for your thoughtful replies. It sounds like manners are a must.  Volunteering/kindness and culture are close seconds.

These were the last things I expected to hear, but it makes sense.  [b]Of course, being lower class, socially, I guess that's no surprise.  [/b]

To the PPs telling me to stay true to myself, well, I am. I already feel like an impostor most of the time, I don't have to add feeling fake to the mix.  I am heavy, dress badly, unmanicured, and yet I'm quite happy with myself.  I've provided a better life for my kids and parents than we deserve.  I don't want to spend my time literally reshaping myself. I have a vegetable garden to tend to!

For my kids, though, I want them to have it all.  I want them to feel and be authentic.  I'm truly grateful to have all of your advice.

Now, I guess the challenge to figure out how to implement it.  Manners are a relentless pursuit.  You have to have them all the freaking time.  F**k me.  :\[/quote]

Ugh, stop denigrating yourself. These people are no better than you. Do you already have good manners? Are you kind? Do you teach those values to your children? Then you're fine. [/quote]

I second this PP.  Remember OP, she who has the gold makes the rules. You don't have to fit in somebody else's box. You can do it your way. I know an old money family that wears flip flops and shops at Costco. What, why? Because they like to. 
Their kids also fence and have horses.
Be principled, considerate, kind and recognize the [I]inherent worth[/I] of people (including yourself) and you will always be showing the spirit of manners even if you put your napkin on the table by accident. Then you can feel comfortable going anywhere and meeting anybody.[/quote]

+1,000,000

Wise words.  A rare sight on DCUM.[/quote]

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