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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Men, and particularly men who are used to being in a long term relationship (esp. one where they weren't the one to initiate the split), tend to be kind of helpless post-breakup. They don't like being alone, and will be quick to jump into something with someone new. Women who have gone through a divorce are more cognizant of the (perceived, or real) mistakes and shortcomings in their prior partner / relationship, and tend to be a little more discriminate when looking for their next partner.

I have seen this time and again with people who divorce in their 40s and 50s...the men tend to jump into their next relationship and generally end up remarried within a few years, while the women have ZERO intention of ever mrryinf again.[/quote]

Haw. Nice job of rationalizing it in terms of what you want to be true.

The fact is, older men who divorce get remarried because they are still attractive enough to find a new partner.

Older women who divorce, especially if they have kids, not so much. ("I'm not old and wrinkled, I'm just really really discriminating! I have zero intention of remarrying, and the fact that nobody's even asking me to has [i]nothing [/i]to do with that, honest!")[/quote]

Completely agree. 
What? No not at all, I have no horse in this race. Older women date around or will even have a long term boyfriend, but tend to have a "hell no" attitude towards marrying again. They are tired of the role of thankless caretaker and are siked about the idea of doing their own thing / making their own decisions / etc. Men tend to be more codependent, and jump into their next relationships - they don't like being alone. I'm 30, this isn't about me or the narrative I want - it's from firsthand observation of the round of my parents' friends / family friends who went through this at that age [/quote][/quote]

Older women don't like being alone, they just don't have any choice in the matter.

Naturally they're not going to tell the truth (nobody wants them), they will explain it in more flattering terms (I want to be a proud independent woman yay!).[/quote]

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