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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If we don't have sex for a while (say, a week) he gets grumpy and pouty and sullen. I am not turned on by grumpy and pouty and sullen..so I don't want to have sex with him at that point. The situation deteriorates quickly.

(I know I could just have sex with him and he'd snap out of it, but then I get bitter about the fact I have to have sex with him to maintain his mood. Don't I offer anything else?)

This all recently came to light in a huge fight and we are working on it. [/quote]

I'm a DH who was this way.  Our drives were mismatched.  I wanted it every day and she wanted once a week - if that.  When we did do it, she usually started with statement like "can we make this quick?" The regular rejection made me resentful. And I did everything I could to remove roadblocks - choreplay, etc.  We finally compromised on Sunday every week and then one day during the week (although that hasn't been consistent).  The good news is that over the 15 years we've been together my drive has died down and we're pretty much in sync.  [/quote]

I am not against scheduling sex if it helps a married couple, but I just don't get the mechanical nature of the Sunday and one weekday approach. Is it that she literally never comes home from a girls' night out raring to go, or just not frequently enough to make you happy? I am the stronger drive partner as the wife and although I try not to pester my husband more than twice a week, stuff happens and I initiate.[/quote]

She's just not a night time sex person.  If she comes home from a girls night at 10:00, she's going to sleep.  Also, she rarely initiates.  Every once in a while if a romance novel gets too steamy, she'll initiate.  That happens maybe once a year.[/quote]

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