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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Email the parents directly. Let them know what is happening, 9 out of 10 times, the parents either don't know or were informed in a way that minimized the incidents. Most parents don't want their kids to be awful people and would step in. In the meantime, keep your kid home. Let him know you will do everything to keep him safe. Sign him up for a sports league or taekwondo - he needs a "pack", other kids that can look out for him or get a grownup if something happens. [/quote]

:roll: Don't contact the parents, and certainly not as a first step. These are young kids; if there were something magic the parents could do to stop aggressive behavior in young kids, there would be no aggressive behavior in young kids.  And if the parents react in a hostile or defensive way (which is a strong possibility) then that's just going to make the situation worse.  Calling the parents is something people do because they actually want the kid punished by the parents.  Which may be an understandable reaction, but is extremely unlikely do do anything to resolve the situation, and very likely to make it worse.  [/quote]

Agreed.  I know of a situation where parents almost came to blows within the last two years--apparently, the parent of a supposed bully got irate during a meeting at school, and police had to be called.

There is some risk involved in talking to several sets of parents yourselves--even if some of them react reasonably, there is always the possibility that others won't.  Unless I knew the parents pretty well, I'd go through official channels.[/quote]

I was on a parent on the other end of this (the aggressive kid was mine) and the teacher kept on trying to get me to talk to the other parents (and then the other parents tried to set up meetings). It was totally pointless.  I knew everything that was happening and was doing what I could to fix the situation.  Younger kid, but probably not all that different for 6-7 year olds.  There was no reason for me to meet with the parents; they just wanted to be nosy about my child, make useless suggestions, or [b]get me to apologize to them[/b] or pressure me to withdraw my kid.  This is an issue for the school to work out, not for parents to work out between themselves.  If I needed helpful support/advice the last place I was going to go was other parents who were pissed off at me/my kid.    [/quote]

Obviously it didn't occur to you that you in fact owed the bullied and abused child an apology on behalf of your monster.  Gee, I wonder why your child is a problem?  Could it be your inability to take responsibility for wrongdoing and the anti-social example that you set?   :roll: [/quote]

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