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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my case, my husband is clueless about how to parent children, manage a household, manage a family, or take care of a house property or vehicles.  All he knows how to do is kiss ass at the office and work 60+ hours a week.

Just like his mother taught him: his job then was to get good grades (no sports).  She took care of everything, his father was just a bumbling around in the background w a slow and easy research job.[/quote]
Were you clueless about this when you married him? Or, did you think you could change him once the rings were exchanged?[/quote]

I'm not defending this poster in terms of workaholic hours but sometimes when people meet in grad/law school I've seen this happen.  You don't know at 25 what your first few jobs will be like.  Will you end up in big law, as a lobbyist, at a non-profit with stable hours, being a partner, opening up your own firm, working for the government etc.  Once you have kids it can be like a game of chicken, of who is willing to make changes in his/her career first.  Usually, especially if the man is bringing in the money, the woman ends up staying at home.  That said, I've seen guys that have high powered jobs still coach their kids teams.  Or at a minimum clearly take on their share of the kid stuff during the weekend.

But for the clueless part, he is only as clueless as you allow him to be.  I feel if someone can be an Executive and manage office politics, multi-million dollar budgets, in addition to whatever is the core business of his group (is it a mission to Pluto, changing health care laws, creating the latest gadget), oh and travel around the country for work,  surely he can change a diaper and get junior to soccer practice.  What would he do if you had to go away for two weeks?  He would have to learn ...may not be how you would do it, but he would ask someone else how, Google, trial and error, whatever but figure it out.[/quote][/quote]

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