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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my case, my husband is clueless about how to parent children, manage a household, manage a family, or take care of a house property or vehicles.  All he knows how to do is kiss ass at the office and work 60+ hours a week.

Just like his mother taught him: his job then was to get good grades (no sports).  She took care of everything, his father was just a bumbling around in the background w a slow and easy research job.[/quote]

I am sorry your husband is not pulling his weight at home. Did you ignore signs that he would turn out this way when you were dating or did you miss them. I am not judging, just trying to understand how you ended up with such a bad fit of a spouse for you(some women love workaholics who do nothing else- I have a friend whose husband is like this and she thinks it is cool).  [/quote]

We met in grad school. Which was a breeze for him and he focused on me and had a very social roommate, etc.
I could tell he was a workaholic but we also shared many of the same values.  We discussed religion, family, etc. He had a SAHM growing up and a type of nutty professor father.
I sensed he was short in life experiences and never judged people, but I thought he could learn.

I was wrong. Things were fine until kid number two- that is what I hit the wall. I couldn't work full time, raise two little kids, manage a house and yard, plan anything and take care of him and his incessant messes (banever picked up after himself). I could no longer cover for him and he now has to step up and contribute more than jay a paycheck and more than sitting around in his iPhone waiting for to be told exactly what to do, when, and how.  He is likely stressed out at work and bringing home that exhaustion and zero family mind share.[/quote]

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