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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]At 8, kids are definitely veering into the territory of having defined friends groups. That's fine and normal. Between the extremes of the very popular kids and the mega unpopular ones lies the vast majority of average kids who have their own set of friends that they hang out with regularly. They don't get invited to every single party, but they get invited to the ones their friends have, and that's what matters. Making sure your kids know that that level of friendship is good is what's important. I would never encourage my kids to maliciously leave someone out, but past a certain age, I'm sorry, I'm not having ALL 12 girls in the class for a sleepover, nor do I expect that from the other parents. Which means sometimes my kid is left out, and if you're doing your job, she knows that everyone is left out sometimes and it doesn't determine their worth or value and it's not just not that big a deal. [/quote]

I mean, I have boys, so perhaps it is different, but I think you are missing the point.  I agree that is totally normal to have friend groups by age 8, and to only invite friends to a sleepover.  But neither of my boys would be sufficiently close friends with 7 out of 10 boys in the class to warrant inviting them for a sleepover.  Three or four boys tops.  So no, you certainly don't need to invite "ALL 12" girls in the class, but it is pretty cruel to invite 10 of them.  [/quote]

This is not even close to OPs situation. There are multiple classes in the grade, so it is more like 30 other girls were not invited. Much ado about nothing. No one in a big school invites all of the kids; it just ins't practical. [/quote]

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