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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH left his ex for me.  I wasn't really an AP in the normal sense. There was no deceit or sneaking around.  He moved out before we started dating.  They were separated, but still married.  In hind site, I wish we had waited until the divorce was final.  I think it would have been easier for her.  The kids were too young to know the difference.  They were 4 and 7.  After we got married, they lived with us full time.

We are still married and have been for over 20 years.  Kids are grown and gone.  We are happy.  Our kids are happy.  My DH's ex is remarried, but still very bitter about the divorce.  That bitterness has caused a lot of problems in her relationship with the kids.  She pretty much bailed on them after my DH was awarded custody.  She never paid child support, made no effort to exercise her visitation, didn't call them for months at a time.  They are still resentful and don't have much of a relationship with her at all.  They'll see her once or twice a year.  That's an improvement over what it was a few years ago.  I really wish that relationship was better. When the kids lived with us, I tried to encourage them to repair it. Once they left for college I stpped trying.

So, yes we are still married.  Yes, we are happy.  Yes, our kids (his, mine, and ours) are happy.  My ex is happily remarried to a wonderful woman.  The only one who never moved on is my DH's ex. [/quote]
She's not bitter about the divorce. She's bitter about the fact that her husband and his new wife forcibly bought the kids using the "but we have more money!" argument, and found the one judge who would go for it.  And it's kind of amazing that you forcibly took the children from the mother, and then act put out that she's bitter about it.   When you stab someone, do you act surprised when they bleed?

The kids are still resentful because deep inside they know they've been bought, and irrationally, they wish their mother didn't let that happen.  Like so many children, they never realized their mother isn't omnipotent. [/quote]

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