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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband is European and found my taking his last name to be a little odd, but he didn't mind either. I did it because to me it felt romantic, I like his name better than my maiden name, and I wanted us all (kids) to have the same last name.

I think this is a very personal choice you have to make for yourself, OP. Weigh heavy philosiphical things all the way down to shallow things, such as whose name you like better.

[b]At the end of thr day your name is kind of like the color of your front door - not that important in the scheme of things. 
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Good luck and congratulations![/quote]

What do you do for a living?[/quote]

This thread shows that not everyone will like what you do.  I kept my last name.  My in-laws always thought it was for professional reasons, but it was not.  It is my name.  My kids go by their father's last name - it is their name.  There was never any confusion about who was the mother, who was the father, what our relationship was.  My kids - and I've asked them - to them it is a non-issue.  You may internally feel a struggle, so listen to what your own struggle is -- what does HE want, what do PARENTS want, etc.  All that is relevant, as is what YOU want.  But the bigger societal issues - I think some here blow them up to be bigger than they really are, and the moral/religious overtones are largely dead except in some very conservative areas of the country.  [/quote]

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