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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are reacting to very little knowledge and mostly suspicion. There is no rush to confront. You will not change anything that has happened. Step back and examine your marriage. What is wrong in your marriage? The profile is a symptom. [/quote]

Obviously something is very wrong in my marriage but I have no idea what. We argue sometimes but not often and I thought we were both happy. I won't know what's "wrong" until I talk to him. [/quote]

When you talk to him, you really need to listen.[/quote]

I disagree with OP's premise that some is necessarily "very wrong" in the marriage, and I don't think she should jump into the conversation with that perspective.  He could simply be curious about what's on the website.  Or he could desire that feeling of being exciting to someone new.  Or he might like the hunt.  Or he might get turned on by the implicit power play in the "sugar daddy" scene.  But it is perfectly normal to feel like the things you get out of a monogamous marriage don't fulfill every single desire you have.  It doesn't mean that he is going to sleep with someone else, but it most certainly means he finds that exciting in some way.  So instead of accusing him of infidelity or lack of care about your marriage, why not seek to find out why he's curious?  Perhaps you could turns this into an opportunity to expand the openness of your relationship about what you both desire.  Maybe you could find a way for this to spice up your marriage rather than wreck it. [/quote]

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