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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I'm a woman and [b]I feel entitled to a certain level of sex and physical affection within my marriage[/b]. On demand, whether he is in the mood or not? No, but [b]I would be pretty hurt if he withheld sexual and other physical affection[/b].

I guess that makes me a monster, too.[/quote]

If your H has cancer and is fighting for his life and puking in a bucket and can't get enough energy to care for his children and all you want is for him to put out a couple times a week... I guess you are. [/quote]

Perhaps you can point out for me where in my post I said that I expect sex a couple of times per week under all circumstances, even when he is going through a possibly terminal health issue.

Projecting much?[/quote]

Bolded it for you.[/quote]

You bolded a statement, but not one that said I would expect it if my husband was dying. You are projecting beyond belief. Anyone with even a shred of common sense knows that there are many exceptions.[/quote]

and anybody with a shred of common sense knows that many people have issues... exhaustion, a baby was just born, anxiety, depression, disabilities, etc. There are many issues that get in the way of sex. Cancer is one.

You did not say, I expect sex... except when you have a good reason to not have sex. that is a normal marriage. It's the entitled spouses that are the issue. That is what this thread is about. Why do people feel entitled to sex when their spouses have good reason why they don't want to or can't have sex as much as the spouse wants, why do they feel entitled to sex as often as they want and the other spouse can't be entitled to have sex as little as they want. [/quote]

The issue becomes clouded over what " a good reason" is. Validly, a good reason is actually that one person just doesn't want to. But where does that leave the other spouse?

The kicker to me is that people who are actually experiencing hurdles to physical intimacy are the ones working the hardest to maintain it. I used to work in sexual health, and had many clients with chronic illeness and disabilities that made sex (specifically intercourse) difficult if not impossible. Many of these folks and couples found other ways to keep their relationships physically quite tittilating. The difference is in a lot of these "normal" marriages, the intimacy just stops, along with most physical contact AT ALL, Only for the actual reason that one partner does not want sex. [/quote]

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