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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Getting back to the original question: "Ladies - would you have sex more often if your spouse was really good in bed?"

After reading 11 pages of responses, the reason ladies aren't having sex clearly is NOT the spouse's performance in bed. Very few posts even allude to sexual performance. It is the typical marriage resentments/tired/choreplay stuff.

So the answer to this thread is: NO![/quote]

The question should be, Ladies, would you rather have sex with another guy instead of your husband? [/quote]

Except I don't think most of the people who have been writing serious responses would say yes. But once again yes, easier to blame women and say they are just being assholes than to think about the deep complexities that are really going on in complex long term relationships[/quote]

How do you know what they would say?  And how is this blaming women?  It's a simple question that goes to a neglected part of the discussion about female sexuality in monogamous relationships.  Like every other part of this complex subject, the answers would probably be wide and varied with many nuances that are as individual as the women answering the question.  [/quote]

There have been very few posters here talking about how they want to leave their husbands. There have been quite a few trying to offer real suggestions on how they'd improve their relationships with their husbands.

Perhaps 'blame' is the wrong word. But to reduce this entire conversation to, 'women just want a new guy to screw' is so reductive of what many posters have been saying that I think its, at minimum extremely dismissive and disrespectful of the posters who have been trying to have a constructive conversation. I want to cheat on my husband is not a sentiment I've heard echoed here. [/quote]

The question wasn't would you cheat or would you leave your husband, it was: "would you RATHER have sex with another man than your husband?"  You're conflating cheating and leaving with a simple question about desire.  The answer does not preclude all of the other positive things you mention and, in fact, I think if many women faced this possibility about their own sexuality in the context of their marriage they might find a new approach to rebuilding their desire for their own husbands that doesn't include rationalizing away their lack of desire for them or looking for it elsewhere. [/quote]

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