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I think it has more to do with setting the stage for successful seduction. I, for one, can't turn my brain off, so if I still need to do a load of laundry for the daycare bag, make bottles, make lunches and clean the kitchen and I want to be in bed early enough to not be exhausted the next day, I'm not going to be as loose and open to sex. If half of those things are done when I walk in the door then a) i have more time, b) i'm feeling happy and grateful towards my husband, c) i am less stressed. So suddenly getting in the mood and sex is less of another thing on the list I have to do and more of something I all of a sudden have the time and energy to really enjoy. [/quote]

Now, at this point, where enough has been taken off of your "to do" list that you're more open to sex -- does your husband now have to read your mood and know to initiate, or is his doing the chores enough to get you to take the next step and make a move? [/quote]

I am not the pp, [b]but he still has to initiate most of the time.[/b]  I don't know about the pp, but for me this wasn't a one for one deal.  His taking over a substantial amount of the chores/childcare on a permanent basis made it so that generally I was more interested in sex.  It also gave me more time to work out, take on additional projects and get more accolades at work, spend more time having positive experiences with my children, etc.  and this probably led to my being more interested in sex as well.  [/quote]

NP here.  AYFKM?  Really?  At what point are you going to show this poor bastard some appreciation?  I have a feeling you aren't telling us all of the hoops he has to jump through to get some.  [/quote]

Wow.  He has to help parent his own children in a significant way almost every day, do a significant amount of the chores (not most, but like 25%...enough that it is noticible for me...I'm not asking him to cook and do laundry or anything), and let me know when he wants to have sex, then he needs to be attentive to my needs when we have sex. Are these really ridiculous hoops?  [/quote]

Either you're not that attracted to him, or you're not that sexual. You should want to have sex because you have an urge to do so, not because you are "giving in" to his requests upon condition that he satisfactorily completes various tasks.[/quote]

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