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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The bottom line is that men, no matter what they do, cannot create libido (sex drive) in women.  If a woman is low libido, a man can buy her flowers, treat her well, do chores, take her on dates, take care of the kids, equally share all responsibilities, etc., and he MAY get sex in return, but it will stem from a place of gratitude or obligation and not from instinctual drive, and it will therefore be temporary.  The frustrating part for men is that there are just enough high drive women out there, including an artificially high concentration on these boards, that they haven't surrendered all hope that such good fortune should be theirs through their own DWs.  [/quote]

Doing chores around the house is only good in the sense that it may reduce resentment. But this still doesn't make her attracted to you. It just removes a negative.

The harsh reality is, for her to be attracted to you, you must actually be attractive. For men, this includes the obvious stuff -- being in decent shape and coming across as a competent guy with a decent job; a person that people respect.

There is another factor that women don't like to fess up to: If she knows that other women don't see you as attractive, and men don't seem to respect you, it dampens her own feelings about you. If she knows that other women are attracted to you, it's a turn on. What women are attracted to seems more determined by social context than men.

This isn't a license to start flirting and trying to "make her jealous." It's just a dynamic to be aware of. Be realistic about where you are in the sexual attractiveness pecking order. If she's really into you, it shouldn't require the moon and the planets to be in perfect alignment for things to happen.[/quote]

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