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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Scheduling sex is also good for men because it lets you rev your engine.  Just as women need time to get in the mood (think how they say choreplay and let your wife have a bath with wine and an erotic novel).  So do men, under some circumstances, especially when they aren't particularly attracted to their wives (do to wife's physical appearance, or her lack of enthusiasm).  So if you pick Saturday night, you can also pick times early in the morning to fantasize, or later to watch porn on your phone or do whatever you need to do to get revved up.  Then, bring that level of "OMG I am going to burst if I can't have sex now" to the bedroom.  That is how your wife wants to see you, it will make her feel better, she is more likely to respond, creating a positive feedback loop.[/quote]

Good advice.

[quote=Anonymous]Also, cardio.  Getting the blood circulating helped achieve better and more reliable erections.  But your problem is more psychological than physical, I assume.[quote]

I'm a serious distance runner (>35miles/w).  This is not a physiological problem.

[quote=Anonymous]Finally, and this worked with my wife's libido - a little bit of her jealousy can get her competitive juices going.  Let her see you as desirable to others.  Shrug it off if she isn't in the mood - her loss.  [b]Then make sure you bring your A game when you bring it and stop checking in with her if she is enjoying herself.  She is enjoying giving you pleasure[/b].[/quote]

A little PUA/MRA but I think there is some real truth in this.  I'll keep it in mind.

[quote=Anonymous]Good luck, and if you do end up straying, don't do it with someone at your work.[/quote]

Heh...well...good advice if I were going there.  I'm never going there.  I'd ask for a hall pass or open marriage and take my chances on her asking for a divorce as a result first.  I get that people have "stay sane and married" solutions and I do not judge them, but - weirdly - the wandering eye has even decreased since the baby came.  [/quote]

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