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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^Agreed, it's a statement about sexual desire, and [b]PP seems to feel that sexual desire should never be studied or discussed critically, which makes sense given her personal experiences.[/b]

As demonstrated, it doesn't make the statement correct.[/quote]
Now you're just making shit up.[/quote]

"anyone who shames sexuality is nuts" [/quote]
Anyone who shames their spouse for sexually desiring them with an out of hand dismissal and a comment to just use their hand and get over it is nuts. And an asshole. 
Be real about the discussion you were having.[/quote]

That's not what she said.  In fact, I quoted her directly.

Talk about making shit up.  [/quote]
Lmao- someone needs to scroll up. Or take something for their memory. This tap dancing you're doing is amazing.[/quote]

Yeah and that person is you.

As stated, I quoted directly.

You, on the other hand..... did not. [/quote]
Everyone can read the convo here and see you tried to shame the man by telling him things changed and he needs to just deal with it and take matters into his own hands. That knee jerk shaming of his desire was wrong. And everyone who cares about their marriage knows that that dismissive attitude isn't what you take when trying to resolve marital issues. And a sudden change in the status quo is a marital issue. Both parties get to be heard and both get a say. But by all means,keep up the good fight against compromise![/quote]

I never "shamed" his desire.[b]  However, when he wants his wife to prioritize his desire, over her own preferences, this is where we run into a problem.[/b]

And, in a comment that seems to have completely gone over your head, I was pointing out that that routine prioritizing of male desire over women's feelings is exactly what leads to such phenomenon as sex trafficking and child sexual abuse.  
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Yes. That's not what the OP was doing though. Seems like he just wants to be heard.[/quote]

But it seems as though his wife did hear him.  She seems to actually anticipate his sexual advances, according to OP, and dread them.

But her hearing him does not change her libido, nor does it mean she is obligated to somehow match hers up with his.

[b]She doesn't want sex from him, that's that. [/b]Unless or until that changes, OP will have to find a productive, healthy way of dealing with it.  [/quote]
You can't possibly be in partnership with anything more complex than a goldfish.[/quote]

Another thing you're wrong about!  But of course, my relationship does not involve [b]coercive [/b]sex, so maybe by your standard it doesn't count?[/quote]
Right, cause anyone who thinks your attitude is shitty is just putting up with getting raped by their husband  :roll: You're a piece of work.[/quote]

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