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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a big three graduate, the fact that these situations exist is a huge reason we are going public. I genuinely don't believe the quality of the education is that much better and I don't want to put my children or my family in this kind of environment. And I'm actually pretty trendy and not overweight. It's just disgusting.[/quote]

At any top public there will be very similar social dynamics, maybe even worse.  Don't kid yourself.[/quote]

Don't be ridiculous. My kids have done public and private and the parent dynamics are very different. Basically, the parents you meet in public school are mostly your kids' friends' parents, plus the occasional parent team/club helper, and they will be nice to you ... just because.  Public school parents are just not competing on weight and clothing (if anything, I'm among the better dressed and that's thanks to J Crew). There are public queen bees who run the various fundraisers, but the schools are big enough that you can avoid them. The public parents to watch out for are the steely-eyed magnet/IB parents who want their kids to get into the next level (MS or HS) magnet or IB, but the victims there are the teachers and their own kids, not other parents. I have been grilled by some of the worst about my kid's application plans, and the same woman grilled my kids when I wasn't around--but that's laughable and who wants to be friends with such a miserable person anyway. (Full disclosure: I'm a magnet parent.) Public schools simply don't have the same number of get-togetherer and socializing opportunities as private schools, for good or bad.

Don't get me started on the cut-throat private school parent dynamics around who gets into the Big 3 MS or HS from your warm and fuzzy K-6 or K-8. The mom of the class bully actually accused my kid of being mean just as the applications were due (the AD laughed out loud, mocked the bully's mom, and my kid got into a Big 3). the  Ivies from the class of 80-100 kids.[/quote]

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