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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh, for God's sake....this child is a toddler. It is not going to be confusing or weird for the toddler, because the toddler won't remember anything different.  She is going to grow up in a world in which her parents were always apart and she always spent part of her time in each house.

I grew up in a divorced family. It isn't that bad. It was certainly much better than my parents living together.

Not everybody gets a Leave to Beaver experience for their family.  Despite that, most people do well. [/quote]

There are many ways that toddlers perceive and grieve loss. It doesn't look like how a preschool does it. Get a degree in child psychology before you speak on this very sensitive topic.[/quote]

So dramatic!

This toddler will be fine, unless a crazy person like you fills her head with how evil her father is

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I don't think OP is evil. And parents don't have to be evil for their young kids to suffer emotionally from parental choices. I do recommend you read up about grief and stress in the 0-3 years. I divorced with a newborn so I know the desire to believe the child won't even notice. It's alarming the impact of adult dysfunction on their developing minds. In my case, I left because of a mentally and abusive spouse. I didn't assume life would automatically be all sunshine and lollipops for the little one. We did years of family therapy. And my kid is well adjusted as a result when I compare her to some kids in my support group (both men and women) who thought the kids would be just fine without adult help. No rage tantrums, no potty training issues, straight As, etcetera. All three adults in this situation need to acknowledge a huge hole was been ripped in DD's life. Her parents need to help her navigate her new normal and the feelings she experiences. [/quote]

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