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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was raised upper middle class and my husband's family struggled to put food on the table.  However, they're first generation immigrants and are actually quite cultured, etc.  But they struggled for the first twenty years or so of his life.

For us, the biggest divide has been the fact that his family had very traditional gender roles, which is probably more typical in working class families.  In his family, the women raise the children and the men go to the club after work with their friends to get away from the shrieking and the crumbs.  It was a struggle at first to get my husband to see that they were his kids too, not just my problem.

[b]He also does most of the grocery shopping but was raised to buy just enough food. [/b] When they went shopping on payday, their cupboards were bare!  As a working mom, I like to have lots of extra granola bars and toilet paper and stuff, and it sounds stupid but it used to really annoy me to have to dash out to the store on a weeknight because we were out of stupid stuff.  But now I have converted him to the wonders of Sam's Club.

Over the years we have fought about:  whether SAT tutoring is really necessary;  whether we should get the kids a math tutor or just make them study harder;  whether paying for summer camp is a waste of money.

Also, he thinks restaurants are a waste of money which can be hard on a Friday night when you're exhausted from working all week.

It never occurred to me that any of these things would be issues since we had similar educations and met at work.  We also disagree about how much to give to charity.[/quote]

My parents both grew up poor and food insecure.  Food was the one thing growing up they would never let run low.  My mom is uncomfortable because I won't buy something at Safeway because I know it's cheaper at Trader Joe's.  She refuses to look at the prices of the food she buys.  [/quote]

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