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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm so sorry, OP.  The additional condoms and lube tell you all you need to know in terms of knowing he's had sex with at least one other person if not people.

Honestly, and maybe it's just because this happens to me, the lube plus car condoms suggests same-sex anonymous hookup to me.  There are lots of oubliy straight guys in the DC area (probably everywhere) who will meet another guy for quickie sex, no questions asked.  If your DH's time is mostly accounted for and you can't imagine him being able to have a full time affair, that would be my guess.

For me, it was somewhat a comfort to know that the sex was anonymous and not at all emotional or personal, but I still couldn't live with the breach in trust and eventually split up.

SurvivingInfidelity.com can be a huge help to you now.  I'm so sorry, OP.[/quote]

DH here:  sadly, this sounds like the most plausible scenario to me, too.  I'd gather more evidence before confronting, however, since it is not entirely definitive and if he stonewalls and goes dark because he knows you know, you will drive yourself crazy wondering.  [/quote]

There are lots of oubliy straight guys in the DC area (probably everywhere) who will meet another guy for quickie sex, no questions asked.

NO THAT IS NOT CORRECT.   I'm straight and no mans gonna suck my dick.  You bi people need to get out of you head that everyone can be bi
If he's humping other men , he is gay 
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I[b] don't know what the PP meant by "oubliy straight guys"[/b] but I assumed that meant men who claim to be straight who will have sex with men with no strings attached. Not men who are actually straight who are having sex with men.

As for the belief that everyone can be bi, everyone can be. If you're not, that's fine, but a bi man who is sexually interested in men AND women is not "gay." you need to get out of your head that people are either straight or gay with nothing in between. It's just not true.[/quote]

I'm the PP who typed that and it was a typo.  Sorry!  I meant "publicly straight guys".  Like my ex.  I'm not even sure to this day what I'd say he is in terms of orientation, but the short story is that he was a sex addict (a diagnosis that I think is half-hokey...essentially, he was obsessive about sex and used it as an escape from his problems)...so basically, he would have sex with whoever was immediately available at any given time.  And given that professionals cost money and that meeting a professional once a day would add up to a sum that I'd eventually notice, he turned to anonymous meetups with whoever would be available, which was usually lots and lots and lots of purportedly straight men who'd meet for trysts.

I saw the email account he'd use for meeting guys and he'd literally get dozens of responses within an hour of putting up an ad, from guys who'd meet him in parking lots or other semi-public locations on the way home from work.  It happens a LOT in this area, even now.[/quote]

Out of curiosity (pp here), was he seeking men, or was he just seeking whoever was immediately available?[/quote]

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