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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op does not have permission to actively ignore this brand new baby.  But she can't force herself to feel warmly towards people who never made an effort to get to know her child, never bothered  to ask a question about her child and pretty much ignored the fact that their child was even in the same room with them.

Of course she will congratulate them and of course she will ask polite questions.  Of course she will.  But it isn't Op's job to make her 4 year old a "big sister" to her new cousin.  These folks have made it pretty clear that it is all about THEM and have no real genuine feelings towards Op's child. [/quote]

It goes both ways. What support did OP offer to her ILs when they were having difficulties?[/quote]
Not PP, it doesn't  exactly go both ways. There is no one right way to support an infertile couple. I don't know what OP did to express support. [b]But there is an accepted standard to ask about family members and how they are doing and OP's in-laws clearly didn't do that.[/b] [/quote]

There is. And there is an accepted standard of not putting your baby in someone's face constantly. OP sounds like her baby is the center of the universe and she can shame her ILs with it.[/quote]

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