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[quote=Anonymous]OP- I get it. You are the family member who is more responsible. You've earned your life. Your sister was less responsible and is having things handed to from your parents that you have had to work for.

It's okay to feel resentful about this situation. I'm the responsible person in my family and no one really gets how hard it was to get through school and make my way.

Let me suggest something about your mom's gift-- she is probably incredibly relieved that your sister seems stable, is off of drugs and making a life for herself. She may be giving this gift out of some relief and anxiety that your sister may return to her old ways of she's not supported.

My father was an addict and my grandmother would gloss over it or be elated when he seemed to be living a life like other people-- married, house, job, etc. although he always eventually screwed up everything he touched. I think she helped him and fooled herself too that it was helping him establish a permanent change for the better.

Having a kid who has problems or is in crisis is about attention-it's not about who is loved more. You've established the role as the stable sibling who does not need help. [/quote]

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