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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it started like this with my XH. His sister and SIL were great dating coaches up through the wedding. He was always presentable in a young fed just out of grad school way. 
Within days after the honeymoon, I was gently reminding him to iron his pants before going to work. He passed it off as "absent-minded egghead" personality. He had great ideas and couldn't be bothered with trivialities like matching clothes or balancing check books. Then I started noticing other things that were signs something was amiss with his "social self" and emotional health. Eventually, he confessed to mild learning disabilities, anxiety, and depression. We did therapy. He said he was taking his meds. By the time I was midway through a troubled third pregnancy, mild was clearly a gross understatement. He'd been slipping into pretty serious mental illness for years and tipped over the edge.
We divorced. 
These days, my youngest sometimes complains about "weird stuff Daddy wore" or I see him at exchange with his hair cut extra goofy and I know that a storm is brewing. Like the time he wanted to move himself and kiddo to S. Korea to teach English although he can barely afford his mortgage here and doesn't have primary custody.
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OK, so lack of style = mental illness?[/quote]

Also, what stands out to me is that although things were troubling and they were in therapy, she was already onto her 3rd pregnancy! I just don't get these women who keep having kids with husbands who clearly have some issue and then they have to break up the family. That to me is troubling and a sign of a mental illness.[/quote]

I think the women are fine with their guy as they're having and conceiving kids, then at some point the stress and boredom of kids leaves them emotionally distressed. Rather than recognize the change in themselves, they imagine a mental state that has remained relatively consistent then re-write history so that their husband is a problem and has "always" (or almost always) been a problem. [/quote]

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