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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP--

Here's the concise version of your post. 
--I enjoy something 
--my in laws don't like me enough to invite me to do it 
--(subtext: I can't afford to do it without them)
--they've invited my kids to do it 
--I need to find a reason to deny my kids this fun thing because I'm hurt it wasn't offered to me 
--how about "my in laws will teach bad values?" Does that work.

Short answer -- don't deny your kids something they might enjoy because you're jealous. [/quote]

Disagree. I do think there is more of an outright power struggle than op is admitting,  but they were disrespectful of her. I would totally blow them off. [/quote]

Me, too. If you can't treat the mother of your grandchildren with respect, then you are out of luck. I'm not sending my kids to hang out with people who aren't respectful to me.  [/quote]

We don't know how OP's in-laws treat her other than this. For all we know, they're perfectly nice to her. It's possible, though, that they enjoy having something they share directly with the grandchildren to bond with them, rather than it always being filtered through the parents.

We also don't know OP's role in this. It's entirely possible that it's better for everyone to keep the activity separate, and [b]that's why OP's husband isn't backing her on limiting access to the grandparents[/b].[/quote]

Yes, he is, and in fact it was his idea. We just haven't dealt with it, and it keeps coming up here and there. I was waiting hoping at some point it would be a more natural conversation, or that we could resolve things and do this together, etc. [/quote]

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