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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP--

Here's the concise version of your post. 
--I enjoy something 
--my in laws don't like me enough to invite me to do it 
--(subtext: I can't afford to do it without them) 
--they've invited my kids to do it 
--I need to find a reason to deny my kids this fun thing because I'm hurt it wasn't offered to me 
--how about "my in laws will teach bad values?" Does that work.

Short answer -- don't deny your kids something they might enjoy because you're jealous. [/quote]

Nope, sorry. Op here. I understand this is an easy interpretation, but its not that simple.

It is true we could not afford to do it at the level they do on our own; we also have no desire to do this activity. I don't like the idea of exposing my children to something in a way that creates dissonance over a number of issues such as our lifestyle, which is modest, the people involved in this sport, respect for me, and several other issues. Over this particular issue, my in laws are allllllllllllllllllll about the status stuff. That is what kills it for me. If they haad taken a different approach, and were more relaxed about it, and had included me even once or twice, I would be totally okay with it. But there are just too many issues, and we as a family feel it would be unhealthy to do with our children. My husband finds it gross and does not want our children to participate at all. [/quote]

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