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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP--

Here's the concise version of your post. 
--I enjoy something 
--my in laws don't like me enough to invite me to do it 
--(subtext: I can't afford to do it without them)
--they've invited my kids to do it 
--I need to find a reason to deny my kids this fun thing because I'm hurt it wasn't offered to me 
--how about "my in laws will teach bad values?" Does that work.

Short answer -- don't deny your kids something they might enjoy because you're jealous. [/quote]

Disagree. I do think there is more of an outright power struggle than op is admitting,  but they were disrespectful of her. I would totally blow them off. [/quote]

Me, too. If you can't treat the mother of your grandchildren with respect, then you are out of luck. I'm not sending my kids to hang out with people who aren't respectful to me.  [/quote]

[quote][b]Then you have a few children and the inlaws are all about indoctrinating them to this thing, their way, and in a stunning show, are still not interested in having you join. As in they say repeatedly, "let me take your children and for x, it will be great", without ever extending an invitation to you. [/b]

For the first time, this feels extremely uncomfortable to me[/quote]

To me, OP sounds teeth clenching  angry and hurt about this and does not want to let it show, or let other people she knows who read DCUM find out. [b]Whatever it is, I would not let my inlaws treat me disrespectfully in front of my kids. No elite sport would be worth that to me. And OP does not seem that interested in the children pursuing that sport/ activity.[/b] I think either horses, golf at a club, or skiing from your own place at the resort. Or something really mundane like dance or soccer. There are show off snobs in all sports and activities.

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