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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women like this on DCUM make me value my spouse, with all the problems we have, so much more highly.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It does make sense, doesn't it? You made bad choices, believe your pooh doesn't smell and is in fact a delicacy, blame your husband for your bad choices, and believe people on an anonymous message board should admire you.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The issue with you, sweetheart, is that you have an inflated sense of self esteem, and contempt for the man you, in your genuinely infinite wisdom, chose to marry. It does all make sense: you are a catch.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You missed the part about her being a self-described gift from god. Or you didn't, because you are the woman who she has an incredible body and that her husband is a loser.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm definitely not OP, scout's honor, but I think this PP is the woman who says she has the incredible body and is a catch.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound like a real catch.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could be your wife, OP.  I think I have always felt this way, but especially now that we have kids and I have some hormonal issues.

Before DH, I was in some really bad relationships.  Amazing sex and sexual attraction, but emotionally abusive.  When I met DH, I found him attractive and nice, but he didn't turn me on.   I [b]did not think that I could have both sexual attraction and someone who was a good guy[/b].  I wanted a good guy because I needed stability and wanted a great parent for my kids.  This all worked out great for the first few years.  Now it's taking it's toll.  I am about to start therapy again to figure it out.  Besides no sexual attraction, we get along great, have fun together, travel well together, etc.  I have brought up therapy to him, but he is against it.  So I figure I need to at least put myself in therapy b/c it's not fair to him.

Actually, I have to say, my DH is seriously like a 3rd child and that could definitely contribute to my lack of sexual attraction to him.   I need a man, not another person to pick up after. [/quote]

This. The guys I dated previously were either really nice but didn't turn me on, or turned me on but were jerks. I think I figured I couldn't have both. 
I also married young and am just bored. I constantly wonder what else is out there.[/quote]

To add, on my part at least, a lot of it is boredom. We've been together for so long that I have begun to view him as a companion rather than a "boyfriend" that I get excited about. He's handsome and a great dad, but after years of the same old day-to-day happenings, I think this may just be the nature of many marriages.
I am in incredible shape yet he rarely compliments me on my looks/figure, despite me communicating this to him. He never makes me feel sexy. He rarely wants to be affectionate unless it leads to sex. Over the years, I have found myself to be much more extroverted, and it annoys me when he doesn't want to attend events/parties/causal gatherings. He isn't a huge conversationalist (spends a lot of time on his iPhone and Nextflix) when I'd love to be out doing something or even staying in and doing something simple like cooking.

I have a fairly high drive and though he's attractive with a good body, I like the lights off so I can think of someone else. That sounds horrible, I know. (And I don't fantasize of move stars, but more everyday guys/dads that are flirty and complimentary).[/quote][/quote]

What's up with that response? She sounds like a catch and is refreshingly honest. Too bad you are threatened by that.[/quote]

OP here.  Just want to make it clear that was not me.  I admit a bit of frustration from some of the responses but I have made a point not to be critical of individual posts from spouses who are sharing their situation.[b]  I did enjoy the post on the flatulent bobcat thread that spoofed her post, though. [/b] [/quote]

How would anyone even know it was spoofing HER post in particular?

$5 saying you posted it OP.  Her response obviously got under your skin.  Perhaps this explains the lack of sex with your wife... [/quote][/quote]

I'm wondering what would be funny about that?  A woman with an incredible body IS a catch, just like a dude with an incredible body.[/quote][/quote]

So?  Is the issue with a woman who has a really high self esteem then?  It's all starting to make sense...[/quote][/quote]

LMAO.  I didn't post the original comment.  But thanks for showing your true colors [/quote][/quote]

You seem very confused.  And not just about how to properly format a reply [/quote][/quote]

Maybe if you get really lucky she will explain to you how to post correctly. [/quote]

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