Reply to Update: New nephews not fitting into family dynamic

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Update: New nephews not fitting into family dynamic - SHTF"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]It's hard for me to imagine the kind of situation OP describes. I have cousins who had emotional challenges and their behavior was really wild when they were young - the parents absolutely handled it immediately every time and didn't take them somewhere where they couldn't make a quick exit at the very first sign of a meltdown. The boys were in counseling and special ed, as well as plenty of group sports so they could have constructive outlets for their intense feelings. I have friends now with children who behavioral issues and mental disabilities who also are quick on their feet to triage whether an initial cry can be turned around or if they're going to have to make a mad rush out of whatever venue they're in.

I've never seen a parent of children with these kinds of behavioral abnormalities who wasn't aware of it and actively dealing with, and who didn't fully understand that this limits what kinds of family outings they can have. I certainly believe OP, but I think most of the PPs are responding as if this just your run of the mill sulky pre-teen who's kind of a bummer to have around. That's not what she describes - she's describing violent and dangerous behavior, as well as highly disruptive and uncontrollable outbursts that are not age appropriate. She's also describing a SIL who is in denial and these behavioral abnormalities are going unacknowledged and untreated. That's not a normal family dynamic in which we all keep an upbeat attitude about the 11 year old who still has meltdowns as if he's 3 - I've been there, done that, and we all were supportive because everyone was doing what they could about it. OP is in an entirely different situation - that 11 yo who is mentally like a 3yo is not getting the helps he needs in OP's situation.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics