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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know whats weird, I view women AND men who aren't married yet by their early 30s as people with something amiss. Between 24-27 people are actively looking to date to marry. If they havent been married by their early 30s...something's wrong.

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Early 30s can still be explained by region, culture, and education.  A DC lawyer marrying at 33 is normal and common.  Nowhere is marrying for the first time at 37 common, however. Outliers merit some scrutiny, especially when there is no apparent reason beyond the person's own issues.

On a different note, lack of interest in marriage until age 35+ is a red flag IMO because it indicates the person does not place the same value on marriage and family as most people do.  From what I have seen, that is the kind of person who is more likely to quit and cheat, check out emotionally, or get divorced when the going gets tough in the marriage.  [b]When I was on the market, I stayed away from bachelors over 35 even if I couldn't find something clearly wrong because at the very least, they did not share my values.[/b][/quote]

I assume that you were under 30 when you were doing this. If you were over 30 yourself, I doubt you would have just summarily rejected an otherwise good guy because he was over 35. [/quote]

Yep, I was under 30, looking to be married, and not interested in letting a commitmentphobe waste my time until I was over age 30.  I got married at 28 and we have been happy in the years since.  The women I know who pinned their hopes on bachelors over 35 are still waiting for a ring.  There is always some excuse why marriage doesn't make sense now, but might make sense later for these men.  [/quote]

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