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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Indian woman here who has not experienced this in real life BUT I also have had a really hard time making friends with the white parents of my DD's friends.  I don't know if perhaps an unarticulated anti-Indian sentiment is the reason or if there's just something wrong with me (never had trouble making friends before though).[/quote]

They may be assuming things about you. I'm Indian and I know lots of Indians ONLY hang out with other Indians socially, on weekends etc -- esp first gen Indians. If you're trying to talk with your DD's friends' parents -- they may be assuming you're being nice but you wouldn't be interested in ever getting together because you have a dawat every weekend or you have your inlaws living with you or you only socialize with family or whatever.[/quote]

Yes! My DS had a lot of Indian students in his class and I could not gain ground with the parents- perfectly cordial but tended to socialize with the other Indian parents. I completely understood, but was bummed. It's not always like this- I connected far better with the Indian parents in my neighborhood. I have honestly found all of the women to be smart, straightforward, and easy to be around. People are people- one of my son's friends is originally from India- she has an older sibling with special needs- I saw the parents at a function once with their older child--both father and mother were lovingly holding his hand, wiping his face, helping him eat. The image stuck with me as an exquisite example of parental tenderness and love. [/quote]

Just imagine if you have to work with them

I know one Indian mom with a special needs child. She cannot talk to the other Indian moms.  They are all In that get to tj any cost phase

Very sad

They may exclude themselves but they do not stick together except superficially

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