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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]In a lot of cases, the husband would be cheating with someone. It's not like one woman declining his offer is going to change his mind.[/b]

Sleeping with someone else's husband isn't something I thought I'd ever do. Once the line was crossed, I realized it's not as bad as I thought. We have amazing sex and a friendship, but that's about it. We don't want to marry each other. We don't want to cause any trouble in the other one's life. We get together a few times per year and have sex.

I'm certain it would be someone else if it wasn't me. We both understand what we have, and what we don't have. The risk is very low and the sex is off the charts. [/quote]

That's an astonishingly cowardly comment. You could apply this twisted logic to all sorts of things. "Gee, if I'm not to one who (insert any shitty action here) then someone else will, so what's the difference?"

The difference is you can choose not to do shitty things. If you choose the low road then at least accept who you are without the lame rationalizations.[/quote]

At this point,[b] it's a victimless crime. [/b]We are both very careful. The odds of him getting caught are slim with me. The only way his wife would find out is if he told her. I'd feel guilty if it affected his family, but I think we've found the balance that makes that almost impossible. It works for us. [/quote]

You're clearly a sociopath. No remorse or shame. Lacking empathy. Live by a pleasure principle (if it feels good and there are no consequences to you, then why not?). Disregard for societal norms. Lying.

It's one thing to have an affair. But to completely rationalize that you're doing nothing wrong takes some sort of mental deficiency.

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No, it isn't.  It's just that the victim of the crime doesn't know yet.

Look, if you're happy sleeping with a lying cheater, go for it.  Clearly no one here is going to talk you out of it.  But you are knowingly choosing to involve yourself in a course of conduct that involves lying and breaking promises, and that will likely result in an innocent person being hurt badly.  And just because you didn't make any promises to that person doesn't mean that what you're doing is morally neutral.

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