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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]2) Even though your child has had THREE (THREE!!!) private neuro-psych evaluations by top doctors over the last 6 years...and even though doctors 1,2 and 3 have said otherwise....and even though no other IEP team at any of your child's other schools agree with our "opinion", we think your kid is on the spectrum.... And by the way, you know you really didn't need to get those private evaluations as we could have done it FOR FREE!! [/quote]

This has been our experience in FCPS except we had FOUR private evaluations in 6 years including 2 through ASD research studies from NIH - DS consistently did not meet the criteria for ASD.  Yet, year after year, the school team pushed ASD for the eligibility category.  The last year they said DS 'might' not have medical ASD but that he had 'educational' ASD.  WTF?  He has a medical diagnosis of communication disorder.  He has a medical diagnosis of ADHD.  He has had LD diagnoses since he was 5. Stop with the ASD already![/quote]

Exactly! I am the PP with the 3 evaluations!  Our private psych told us that she has had to go into numerous MCPS's to try to explain to the ignorant SpEd teams that there is a difference between communication disorder and ASD!

Our DS has a DX of severe ADHD, not even any LDs - which surprised us.  The IEP team was just flabbergasted and one of the teachers had the nerve to actually walk out of the meeting. [/quote]

There seems to be a big push in public school systems to over identify kids with ASD vs. supporting kids with ADHD.  We have the same issues in MCPS.  School administrators and staff have reasons for these preferences that has nothing to do with your child's particular disability or needs.

What were the teams recommendations for services based on their assumption of ASD?  Would your private specialists consider the services appropriate for your child?  In the end, if the services are what your child needs and a wrong label gets your child those services then I wouldn't fight the system.  However, if the services are inappropriate and they just want to dump your child in a program because it is there and the program is not the least restrictive environment, then I would fight even if it meant filing for Due Process.[/quote]

WTH is wrong with you?! You are out of your freaking mind if you think that i am going to roll over and ALLOW MCPS to label my DS with ASD when he IS NOT ON THE SPECTRUM....just to get services or therapy!  MCPS is lazy and greedy and wants to use MY kid to get more funding for the school, well they can shove it.   If I were going to be THAT lazy as a parent, why did I bother to go through the expensive process of getting him privately assessed 3 times?!  I should have just let MCPS determine my DS' fate.

All labels and everything else in your kid's school records will follow them throughout their academic career.  I will not allow that to happen to my kid.  He struggles enough with his severe ADHD DX.

With regards to the services or accommodations he gets, I flat out told the IEP team that if they were going to "try"to force my hand and threaten to take his services away if I didn't agree to the ASD DX, that I would happily pay for them privately!

Shame on you PP. :oops:  :shock: 
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I realize that you do not want your child misdiagnosed and they shouldn't be to receive services.  BUT it is not the kiss of death for a child to have ASD and for that (correct) diagnosis to be recognized by the school.  Your response is incredibly insensitive to those parents who [i]have[/i] children with ASD.  [/quote]

NP here. She didn't say it was the "kiss of death" -- but you should face reality.  Few parents want their children to have an ASD. Few parents also want their children to have learning and language issues as severe as my kid's. But I sure wouldn't take it as an insult if they didn't want their child mislabeled, which is the point of her response. Slapping ASD on every issue willy-nilly by using the meaningless phrase "it's a spectrum" keeps children from getting the exact help they need.

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