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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is an honest question. How can parents be coerced into placing their child for adoption?[/quote]

A variety of reasons from false promises, to saying it is only temporary, to doing back door ways of getting custody of a child, being lied to, not being told everything/explain process, etc.  Or, them changing their mind within revocation and preadopt family refuses to return the child and because the courts take so long, they generally leave the kids with claiming the kids are bonded, etc.  Or, not having a revocation period.[/quote]

Are you actually aware of the laws governing adoption?  [/quote]

Very - we adopted and we helped our birth mom fight in adoption for her older child that she did not agree to.  The other family took advantage of her and lied and the courts allowed it despite how inappropriate it was.  We have spent $70,000 to get the child back and on appeals. Clearly you don't know who it works to think adoption are all proper and great.  Ours is great, but the other situation is horrific.  We will spend everything we have to help her get her child back.[/quote]

Yes, lets throw out all the wonderful adoption placements because one birthmother was screwed over. Or didn't know her rights. Or didn't know the process. Or changed her mind.[/quote]

[b]One unethical adoption is far to many.[/b]  If it happened to us, don't think it will not happen to someone you know.  She knew her rights.  She knew the process.  This child was not up for adoption.  Our child was previously placed but this was a sibling she was raising.  You are kidding yourself to think most adoptions are wonderful.  But, please keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better.  One has to assume you did something questionable if you feel that way.  A good adoptive family will make sure the birthparents have their own attorney paid for, know their rights, including revocation.  [/quote]

Yes and one person falsely accused of a crime is one too many. And one false diagnosis is one too many. And one turd in a punch bowl is one too many.

Doesn't change what the PP said. Don't paint all adoption, which for the most part is wonderful and needed with our tainted brush.
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