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[quote=Anonymous]OP everything you've said in this thread speaks to your desire for validation and predilection for drama
- Your child doesn't cry when corrected she "sobs hysterically"
- You don't see what's going on but you're happy to fiction in the gaps
- You run from a room, so horrified at an explicable situation because that's what you want to teach your kids??
- You cast you BIL as some monster because he believes in boundaries and consequences and continue to try and cast his conduct as worst and worse as the thread continues and people are not all in your camp.  
- Apparently it's okay for you to get overwrought and emotional but it's not okay for him to get cross
- You see a contrived apology to keep the peace as a justification for your perspectives

I'm sorry but there are so many things you could have done to handle this more appropriately and maturely.  Asking "what exactly happened here?"  Giving your child space and time to calm down.  Talking to your sister about what is and is not allowed in her house.  Instead your making an explicable situation into a daytime TV show (a really bad one).

I'm guessing that you BIL overreacted because he was sick of poorly managed, over-sensitive, damaging, dangerous brat kids, empowered by a SIL looking to be offended and poised for imminent drama in his house.  I am Team BIL because you represent everything that screws up a family dynamic.  And you cannot see it.  You can't see why you should manage your kids in some else's house.  You can't see why risky rambunctious behaviour should be curtailed.  You can't see that often a reaction on the part of others is the straw that broke the camel's back.  You can't see why chronic overreaction on your part is such a counter-productive thing to do.  I really hope our paths never cross.

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