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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not a very simple issue. It would be my daughter choosing to adopt the patriarchal paradigm and patriarchy-dictated norms. It would still be her choice to do so, but it wouldn't be happening in a vacuum.
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[b]Don't make your daughter fight the patriarchy on your behalf.[/b] Help her navigate the elementary and middle school norms emotionally intact, so she can fight the battles she wants to fight once she's old enough to do so.

It's a more extreme case, but it reminds me of the contingent of naked people I saw in a parade in a very lefty, liberal, non-patriarchal place. What troubled me was the fact that some of their elementary-aged kids were marching with them, also naked. Now maybe they really did want to fight norms by parading naked down the street, but maybe they were also feeling coerced by parents who said, "if you choose to wear clothes, you are choosing to adopt the anti-nudist paradigm and anti-nudism-dictated norms."[/quote]

Did you read my post, or are you trying to stir s***? It would ultimately be her choice to shave or not. The decision just wouldn't happen in a vacuum. She'd be taught where the idea of shaving one's legs (etc.) = good comes from, who profits from people who buy into that idea, what she is actually choosing to do (i.e. bend to patriarchy norms). She would be armed with knowledge, and there's nothing wrong with that.[/quote]

I'm sorry, but do you ever re-read your posts?  Out loud?  They are seriously comical.  [b]Is every decision in your family fraught with socio-political implications? [/b] [/quote]

This kind of decision is. Because of what I already explained and I'm not going to repeat. If you want to call it comical, go ahead. We choose to be aware of the implications of our choices, especially major ones. And yes, this is a biggie.[/quote]

NP here. Look, I'm way left of crunchy, and agree that  we need to raise our kids to be aware of this stuff, and understand the framework. I get you. Hell, you and I are probably neighbors. Let's just be honest, though, OK? Our kids are probably going to grow up to be lipstick-wearing McDonalds munching non-tipping corporate raider types who blog about the trauma we put them through over this stuff.  [/quote]

I hope open, calm talks won't traumatize my children. It's not like I'd be yelling at my daughter "You spineless patriarchy-doormat, you!" while shaking a finger in her face.

Anyway, thanks for getting what I mean.[/quote]

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