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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Say what you will. [b]It is common knowledge that the networking and job opportunities upon graduation from an Ivy are[u] unparallelled[/u].[/b]

I think it's easy for a lot of us whose own kids will not be Ivy candidates to sit here and say in our more self righteous tone that let him choose, it's his life, etc...but come on people getting into an Ivy is  big deal. I will be the first to tell you if it was my son, I would do everything in my power to at least encourage him to try it. If after the first year he is miserable then let him go where he wants to.

You see a phenomenal opportunity that COULD mean great things for your child, it is natural to want that for them. Nothing wrong with it whatsoever in my estimation.[/quote]

PP who has one kid at Stanford and another at Wash U.  I respectfully disagree with the bolded part. Also please keep in mind [b]that all Ivies are not the same.  But that's fine - we can agree to disagree[/b]. [/quote]

Agree (not op) however if we are taking Harvard Yale or Princeton I DO agree with that statement 100%. Cornell, Brown, Dartmouth not so much. My own D attended one of these and the opportunities afforded to her were simply astounding.[/quote]

I have a good friend who went to Harvard who says she would be crushed if her DS *wanted* to go to Harvard[b]. She thnks it was not a great good place to go to undergrad and doesnt believe the networking and prestige factors make up for that.[/quote][/b]

Very hard to believe, sorry. Just don't buy that one bit, in fact it sounds downright ridiculous.[/quote]

Did you go to Harvard, PP? If not, you have no idea what you are talking about. I went to a lesser Ivy, but many of my friends went to Harvard. None is hugely successful, probably because they are similar to me. One of my friends hated Harvard and wouldn't let his child apply. He doesn't feel it did anything to him, but his parents LOVE to brag that their son went to Harvard. Another friend went to Harvard and to Yale Law School. He disliked Harvard too. He wished he'd gone to a smaller school, but he's an introvert. The school was too large and impersonal for him. He's done fine, BTW, but no thanks to Harvard. [/quote]

I didn't go to Harvard but dh did.  I have read the Red book though (book compiled ever 5 years for reunions).  I went to another prestigious top 20 and there is no question that what Harvard alums are doing, as a whole, is substantially more impressive than from my school.  And it isn't all in finance, medicine or fortune 500.  Plenty of actors, published writers, journalists on 60 minutes, etc .  .

I don't know if my children would be admitted.  However, if they did well enough academically to get in, I would really want them to go.  Same goes for Stanford.  They are really unique schools.[/quote]

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