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These women simply have moving goal posts. They don't ever want to have sex (with their husbands), so they keep pretending there's stuff to do. If you help them with stuff, then you are accused of feeling entitled to sex. It's a losing argument and you'd just be dipping into or tasting some other guy anyway.

I don't get horny because I have too much shit to do. 
Oh, cool, let me help with that. There now you have less to do. Let's have sex. 
How dare you get in the way of my hobbies! You have to inspire me!

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While I don't agree with the tone of this post, I actually agree with the point being made. I am the DW who posted a list at beginning of this thread. There were a lot of things going on that killed my sex drive, like hormones from being constantly breastfeeding/pregnant the last 4 years, we didn't date long before I got pregnant, and I was a young mom and really struggled with proving myself as a good mom and felt I needed to not be too sexual, so all of that was a struggle. For a few years we had really lame sex where I just wasn't into it, and I kept asking him for different things: help with chores, approach me differently, etc, but honestly none of that worked.

I realized at one point that it was a total moving target and I couldn't keep blaming him. When I took my sexuality into my own hands and started doing things that made me feel good about myself. I let go of my my mommy guilt, started embracing my kinkier side, and made a conscious effort to increase my libido and get excited about my husband. I also started opening up to him more sexually and telling him fantasies and being more explicit about my likes and dislikes, giving him some reading and directions to help him improve. We are now having better sex than we ever did before, but it really did take me taking things into my own hands.

I suspect for a lot of women it is a moving target and they really are unaware of what they're doING and how important it is that they make sex a priority. I also have a husband who is appreciative, giving and contributes a lot around the house, if I were married to some of these dipshits that do nothing around the house we wouldn't have lasted a year.[/quote]

Great post. Thanks for sharing that. [/quote]

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