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Have you and wife discussed frequency? No? Well go do that!! Agree on a mutually acceptable "times per week" for sex.
Have you and wife discussed the best days/times for you to initiate sex (meaning [i]when is she feeling most sexual and receptive[/i])?
Have you and wife discussed the best way(s) for you to initiate? 
Have you and wife discussed your preferred ways(s) for her to decline? Hint: rather than her just saying NO, she could suggest a specific time in the near future for you to try again

After you have all these answers, and you are both on the same page in these key areas, things are really quite simple.
You now will know exactly HOW and WHEN and HOW OFTEN to initiate sex, and if (despite all this good planning) she STILL happens to decline, well she will tell you exactly when to re-initiate.
All you need to do now is stay within these parameters. Not only will she never be "surprised" by your initiation, she may even begin to anticipate it (in a good way).

Please don't tell me you are one of these sexless marriage guys who insist that SHE initiate?[/quote]

All of this assumes that her intellectual thoughts about sex line up with her body's feelings about sex and that she actually knows what she wants. Times per week? Intellectually, she thinks once a week would be good. Her body is probably in the mood once a month. Result is sex twice a month, one of which is any good. I ask her what turns her on. She says she doesn't know. She "wants to want to have sex."

I initiate more than she does, but we pretty much only have sex the times she initiates. Results in me initiating a lot less. [/quote]

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