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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. 
Thank you all for your opinions. I did decline. To clarify a few things:

-the anxiety some of you picked up on from me was not anxiety over the food itself, but over once again rejecting her offer to host us. I know she loves to serve delicacies like goat tongue or whatever, and when her family comes to our house she happily eats whatever we serve and likes it, and we enjoy enough of an overlap of restaurants to go out to eat happily. I don't want her to worry we think her house is too dirty or something. 
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Then what you need to do is sometime between invitations when things are going well and comfortable, you need to invite her out for coffee or whatever so that you have an in-person one-on-one meeting with her.  Explain that while you love her company, you are not at all an adventurous eater and don't really want to eat too much or too far outside your comfort zone at any given meal.  While you are willing to try one or two new foods or tastes, that you can't handle too many new flavors or foods.  You explain that you have declined her invitations because her menus are outside your comfort zone, but you don't want to alienate her or insult her cooking by accepting an invitation and then not eating much.  Since you know that she pays attention to her guests and ensures that they have enough to eat and enjoy what they eat, that you feel it's better not to accept a meal invitation when fear you would be uncomfortable with most of the menu.

Then you stop and listen.

She may be very accommodating.  If it were me, I'd have a usual menu and then add an entree that I knew would be safe for you and ask that you have that entree and still make the effort to sample some of the other things periodically to see if there was something that might expand your tastes.  If she doesn't want to be accommodating, then at least she'll know why you don't accept her invitations.

What's rude is not your taste in food, but your aversion to dealing with the situation like an adult.  Just ignoring the situation and not accepting her invites without explanation is childish.  [/quote]

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