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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Stop trying to find a man as successful as you. I am a successful consulting exec and I married a GS13 scientist. His career will never compete with mine, he has a regular schedule, and has enough free time to plan vacations for us and take care of a lot of stuff around the house. Consider men who are less Type A - you are strong independent women who can support yourselves. You can likely also support a man and 2 kids. Date someone who is interesting and brings fun and adventure to your life. Find someone who can be your rock because his job is not stressful or require long hours. I was so driven in my 20s I thought I could only be happy with someone as driven as I was - and then I realized those men were boring and didn't have time for me - and didn't have time to read books or discover new bands or find funny clips to show me on YouTube. I started dating men with solid 9-5 jobs and college degrees who worked to live instead of living to work. I married one and I couldn't be happier.[/quote]

First off, I would say that a GS 13 scientist is nothing to sniff at--those folks are pretty accomplished too!

but I am similar to the PP, although my career sadly does not translate to a high salary. But I was/am ambitious, highly educated (ivy, phd, etc), successful in my career path, plus extremely fit and pretty/attractive (petite, so no leggy drop dead model looks, but never had a problem getting a date). I spend my 20s and 30s looking around for the perfect guy, and realized that he doesn't exist or was so into his perfection that he was not kind, sensitive, funny, etc. I married a 5'9" divorced guy with a kid (never imagined I'd do that) who was romantic, quirky, very intelligent, loving but also with a ton of bad habits (good values, ethics, bad housekeeping, etc). Anyway, its worked and we had more kids, and we are very happy--certainly as happy as my friends who are married to law firm partners. He has a college degree from a good school, but never went to grad school, is not tall and is losing his hair. He had an interesting but low paying job when we met--the funny thing is that he's become more ambitious since we've been together and he's excelling in a new, 'high status' career--but that's just an effect of our solid partnership. By the same token, he completely respects my career and doesn't bat an eye if I travel for work, he takes the kids when I need time off for stuff, etc. I believe we have less money but more equality in our marriage than many and that works for me. [/quote]

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