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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Disgusting. I would not support the murder of a baby.

We sit silently while innocent children are slaughtered and then wonder why people have no respect for human life when someone beats up an old person or runs over a child and keeps driving.

Stop patting yourself on the back OP. You are a terrible friend and a sorry excuse for a human being. 
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When I see a post like this, I feel many emotions. Mostly I'm just thankful I'm not so stupid and closed minded. Good luck with your future, weirdo child-like person who thinks life is black and white. [/quote]

Yes, I am closed-minded to the idea of killing babies.

A society that has no respect for the most innocent of lives is a very dangerous society.

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So do you also condemn those who do IVF?[/quote]

[b]Pro-life poster, why do you keep avoiding this question?  Did you yourself murder babies as part of the cost of getting the family you thought you deserved?[/b][/quote]

I'm pro life and don't consider that abortion.  I guess we all have our own comfort level. Personally, I'm ok with the day/week after pill too.[/quote]

So 0-7 days of life is fine.  But 8 days?  No, that's sacred.  Seriously?

The decision to become a parent is HUGE.  Would you ever want to be *forced* into adopting an unwanted baby?  [/quote]

12:02 again.  No one forces anyone to adopt so I'm not sure where you are coming from with this.  If anything, parents who wish to adopt wait a LONG time b/c there are, seemingly, not enough!  And I did adopt one with special needs and our next one will have special needs too, and we are still waiting a LONG time, so don't tell me I just wasn't open to kids with special needs or some such thing.[/quote]

It sounds as though you are ready to adopt unconditionally - you will accept and love the baby no matter what.  FES, genetic issues, HIV infected, drug addicted...you will love and raise that child regardless.

In all fairness, do you think that all adoptive parents would accept such challenges?  Or would the pool of such adoptive parents be fairly small and maybe not even available for some special needs babies..

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Thank you. But you are in fact giving me more credit than is due.  When you are adopting, you are allowed -- ENCOURAGED -- to consider which special needs you are open to and which you are not.  For example, the special need our child has -- we said, "Yeah, we could do that.  It's expensive, it'll take years (prob up to 18 or so) to work on, but we personally can do it."  There were other SNs, however, we said, "You know what, we really couldn't."  For example, we live in a townhouse with a lot of steps.  So, we said, "You know what, we really couldn't realistically have a child who is in a wheelchair.  NO harm no foul, but that just wouldn' work that well."  SO, you can "pick and choose" (for lack of a better term) after a good deal of reflection, which would work for your family.  It probably is different for everyone.  Some people's medical insurance may cover this but it may not cover that.  Some people say, "RAD is no big deal but I could never do cerebral palsy.:"  Some people say, "I can do cerebral palsy but RAD scares the heck out of me."  ETC.

So, in a long-winded answer to your question:  adoptive parents (us included) do not have to be saints to accept blindly whatever comes along.  But, yes, I must admit, I do think that my DH and I WERE more open to certain things, and hey, when you are biologically having a child, you have to be open to some sort of unexpected news anyway, so that is how we always looked at it.  [/quote]

Then in all fairness it is not as simple as the pregnant mom choosing an adoptive family for her baby.  Her baby also has to be a good fit for the adoptive family, too.

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Yes, and they are the ones who get to make this decision.  It is entirely free and up to them.  So, they can search for a family that fits with their background, morals, values, whatever is important to them.  They think it would be cool for baby to have two dads?  They can select the gay parents.  They want a family who is church-going and Baptist?  They can choose that family.  Etc.  They can ensure that the baby is brought up in a way that is consistent with the way they would want their child to be brought up.[/quote]

Right, lots of choices here. Adoptive families can choose what kind of kids they are "open to," women who are giving up their kids for adoption can choose what kinds of parents they are open to, and other women are choosing to terminate their pregnancies. Everyone should make their own decisions about their families.[/quote]

+1, and let's be realistic - these are the choices birth moms of white, non-SN kids get to make.  If you have a SN kid, you're lucky if you can find an adoptive family at all - you're not getting to pick the family with your ideal religious background.[/quote]

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