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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the the biological love is not there and if it turns out to be bad that is something hard to over come.  Conditional love only happens in biological children.  Bring on the responses but if you do not have a biological child you will not understand.[/quote]

I'm going to take the time to enlighten you a little.  I have three biological children.   I also have two stepchildren.  We got custody of my stepkids when they were 3 and 5.  They live with us full time.  Their mother sees them (maybe) about once or twice a year.  She is their biological "mother", but I am MOM!

I remember the first time I saw my stepchildren.  You know that feeling you get when you hold your newborn for the first time?  That's exactly how I felt. Completely overcome with emotion and completely in love.  I could not possibly love those children any more than I do.  They did not come out of my body like my biological children did. But  I absolutely do love them unconditionally.  There are plenty of biological mothers who do not love their children unconditionally - My stepkids' mother is a great example.  A cat is a better mother.  Biology does not always mean unconditional love.

Even people who know me really well probably could not tell you which children came out of my body and which children I inherited.  They are all my children and the way they came into my life has absolutely nothing to do with my love for them.

So...you said "bring on the responses" - Well I DO have biological children.  And contrary to your ignorant statement,  I can tell you with 100% certainty that unconditional love has nothing to do with biology.[/quote]This is not really the same situation. Your step kids are bio to your husband and bio to your kids. [/quote]

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