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[quote=Anonymous]Maybe another way to look at all of this is: if we wait to be "in the mood" to initiate, we may ourselves be missing out on opportunities we did not know were there.

With young kids and other stresses, you feel overwhelmed a lot. Neither spouse may feel "in the mood" in that way that they imagine they should, remember they did, or wish they could. All of this puts waaaay to much pressure on what might better be thought of as a perfectly natural thing that wont happen unless you plan it a bit.

My husband has often been way too fussy for my taste in terms of having everything be just right for him to want to have sex. He has traditionally required a wind down time, and has made me wait while he showers, does this that and the other, and Im layng there half out of my mind with urgent horniness. There was also plenty of rejection. All of which he seems to not ever recall!

Ive learned to just be more open minded and not have as high expectations and have solo O's as needed. Its not what I want, but its what has been happening. DH was depressed for a LONG time and he withdrew from me. Now that he is on antidepressants at the correct dose, we had the BEST sex in a LONG TIME. It has been about 7 months, which is the longest we ever went ewithout, but when we had it, it was the Best in YEARS. Was not expecting that.

But it happened because I risked rejection and initiated.  And I was NOT made to wait!! IT was AWESOME.

I think we all have ideas about sex that may or may not match the realities of sex in a long term relationship. ITs not easy to get total satisfaction, but perhaps also not so impossible. Noone likes to be disappointes sexually, and noone likes rejection. But I think the reality is we must risk these things from time to time because otherwise it just might not happen at all.[/quote]

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