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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think what a lot of people don't realize is that parenting can expose people's childhood wounds. People will feel more hurt by exclusion related to their kid than they would in other settings, because in many cases people have childhood exclusion experiences and feeling that again in a school setting (even when you aren't the one in school) can bring it back.

I have plenty of friends and an active social life but was kind of amazed that I still felt hurt when my kid started elementary school and I didn't "click" with any other parents. I realized it was bringing up these feelings from my own elementary experience and just hitting differently than it would have in another setting.

I also wind up protective of my kid, who like me, is unathletic and sensitive. She has friends but school can be a difficult experience because in large groups, the social scene tends to be dominated by sporty, outgoing kids. She gets forgotten a lot, which is what happened to me at that age too. So watching her go through that, and then also feeling kind of isolated among the moms, has just brought up more feelings of rejection than you might expect. It is what it is.

My kid only has one more year of elementary and I'm glad. I already see things getting better for her. My life got a lot better in middle school and high school because kids diversify as they get older and it's easier for the non-sporty, not outgoing kids to find a niche where they fit. I think as that happens for my kid, my own feelings of being an outsider will dissipate too. [/quote]

Mom with two teens here plus kid in elementary. Sorry to break it to you but middle school is way worse than elementary, not better. This is when girls hit peak insecurity. And you can’t blame parent cliques. There will actually be true mean girl behavior.[/quote]

I have a kid who is much happier in middle.... it's all relative [/quote]

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