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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry.
You'll here half the population saying "shouldn't an old person be able to just stay in their own home" vs. the other half that will say "this is how you move the elderly out and make homes available for new generations."[/quote]

I don’t understand this “moving the elderly” reasoning. They are living in their own houses that they pay/ paid for and invested in. Apart from cost of care, they shouldn’t be moved just to make houses available for new generations. Luckily, These are not public provided housing that the state can just move the elderly. [/quote]

Clearly you’ve never had an aging parent with a neurodegenerative disease insist on staying in 5k sq ft 3 level home with tall staircases in a very car dependent sprawl area.

I do think on a macro level we should not be encouraging elderly people who cannot maintain their homes and barely use the space to stay in them, especially when they are at the end of their driving years and end up isolated in a cul de sac in some exurb.

If any individual can afford and handle being in the home and hire a driver then good luck to them. But it’s absurd when we make societal decisions to enable people to drag this out with things like frozen property taxes and other age in place incentives while young families who are paying higher home prices also are saddled with a higher tax liability. They could tap their bloated home equity to pay taxes whereas younger buyers cannot. It should not be about what any one person wants, but rather how best to allocate tax dollars and limited land.

Putting that aside though, I’ve watched my dad go through multiple falls. The house is in disrepair (not a safety hazard, but it will take a lot of work to fix and is too big to be a tear down). I work full time and have 3 kids, so I cannot drive an hour away to help with this regularly. He is still with it enough that a court will not step in until things are dire. I hope we do not get there.

DH and I have already decided we will downsize to something safer, walkable, and less maintenance as we age. Our family members who did so are doing so much better that I actually think it’s a disservice to elderly people being enabled to stay in a situation that no longer serves their abilities.[/quote]

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