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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I live in NYC. My kid got the necessary score to go to Stuyvesant. We opted out. Total striver fest. It is big enough that this does not refer to everyone. It is very heavily Asian. But there are Asian kids there who are not strivers. But there are many who are. And some non-Asians who are.

It seemed like a miserable place to go to school. My child is smart enough to succeed there. And there are plenty of kids who go there and end up as smart, well-rounded, kind, well-adjusted human beings. But too many don't. Not how we wanted them to spend four years. Bronx Science also had lots of strivers, but it did not permeate the culture in the same way.

IYKYK (that means If You Know You Know - a good term to differentiate non-strivers from strivers).[/quote]

Sounds like "striver"  is just your lack of faith in your own child's personality and your parenting. [/quote]

Actually the opposite. Most of these kids have zero personality. My child has one. While also being as smart or smarter than all of these kids - it is possible to be really smart and well-adjusted. If it takes 100% of your child's effort to excel academically and the have no bandwidth left for anything else, perhaps your child actually isn't that smart. And again - I said most, not all. Plenty of exceptions to the rule who are great kids at Stuy.

Your childish response screams striver. Very defensive. Irrational self-assurance. Totally lacking self-awareness. No emotional intelligence. I'm sure that you think none of these are important personality characteristics. I beg to differ.[/quote]

DP.

Wow, they really touched a nerve.  Saying the majority of kids at stuy have zero personality and maladjusted is wild.  There's a lot of kiuds that that are struggling to keep their head above water but even they have personalities.  They all have passions and interests.

It's hartd to see your characterization of a school that is over 70% asian and not suspect at least a bit of stereotyping.

You really seem like you are lashing out.  There is nothing to be defensive about.  Not everybody wants to put their kid through something like stuyvesant.  If you can afford trinity or dalton, they are better places.  Plenty of parents at these places are stuy grads.[/quote]

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