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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know it's scary. I'm sorry. Consult a few well-respected lawyers. They'll know better than us.

I'm in VA and I've shared this before on here. Keep in mind my ex offered this. He makes close to 7 figures and has a lot clients who have divorced. He said that anything over 16 or 17 years usually gets lifetime alimony so he just offered it -- we were married just shy of 20 years when we separated.

$10k/month lifetime alimony
$2.5k/month child support for two kids, drops to $1.8k for one
$4k month paying off my mortgage

Plus my half of the assets, some of which are rental properties that will some day make good money (but right now all the equity is sucked out by loans my ex took out -- he was always borrowing from Peter to pay Paul)

You've been married 20 years and he makes 10x as much as you do. I really don't believe a judge is going to tell you to suck it up. You are the poster child for spousal support. Fight for the support you have earned by investing in this marriage. Don't listen to the noise that is designed to make you keep sweet and obey. You were involved in a business arrangement -- marriage -- and there is a standard way to dissolve this that honors your non-monetary contributions. [/quote]

I think it’s disgusting that a minor child, unable to work and with whom he shares blood, is entitled to only a quarter of the entitlement of a grown adult who could be working but chooses not to. I’m embarrassed for these women. [/quote]

If you think that this mom spends 10k on herself and only 2,500 on her child, then you don’t understand how moms work. [/quote]

But the alimony is indefinite. So kid leaves for college and mom still banks $10k a month. Your view is exactly why alimony shouldn’t exist, at least not beyond child rearing years. That is, if we think mom is spending a chunk of the alimony on raising kids then she doesn’t need it once they’re gone. [/quote]

How would a 55 year old woman who hasn't worked in 30 years support herself? Do you want to support her thru taxes with welfare so her DH can live it up? [/quote]

If she provided such an invaluable job in the household, I’m sure she’ll have no problem transitioning to a high paid role where she can be appropriately compensated for her work. /s[/quote]

I for example have been out of workforce for 20 years. I'm highly educated, but couldn't climb the career ladder the same as DH as I was an immigrant when we got married. Then we had kids. I cannot get a job because I have no references. I'm not divorced but if I end up so, it'd be very difficult to join the workforce and actually get hired. I have tried. Absolutely nobody is willing to hire me without references. I mean an actual job that requires skills and education, not washing dishes or being a cashier. [/quote]

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